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How to Treat Your Bridesmaids...Well!
Your bridesmaids = your sisterhood. These women are, presumably, your closest peeps (throw in the occasional relative, for good measure). You’ve asked these ladies into the inner-circle of your wedding day and the expectation is that they will surround you with their friendship and support you as you make this important journey. Planning with this group should be fun, free-spirited and full of giggly-girl moments, right? [Queue screeching brakes] Not always. Sometimes the closest relationships can give you the most grief too.
Remember, it may be your day but you are not the only one about to experience huge change. Everyone is wondering how and where he or she will fit in once you say, “I do.” Sometimes, your closest friends and family can become anxious and unsure during the planning stages of your wedding. Enter your own expectations and the cocktail for disaster has just been shaken, not stirred. Don’t despair though, with some heart-felt dialogue and one-on-one time, everyone can be back on track in no time.
Put it in Writing
One of the most wonderful ways you could do this is to write each of your bridesmaids a simple letter—not a text message or Facebook message. Not even an email. Plan a night to sit down with a glass of wine, some beautiful stationary and pen a note to each, expressing why their friendship is so dear. Include some shared moments from the past and how you envision them fitting into the future. Finishing it off with a wax stamp or beautiful ribbon will be sure to make this a treasured keepsake.
A Picture Says a Thousand Words
Yes, there will be hundreds taken on your wedding day and many will include your bridesmaids but having a special session devoted to you and your maids would be a great way to have some laughs. It would also provide a fabulous opportunity for introductions of any friends or family that don’t know each other. Schedule a private portrait session with your photographer, head to a favorite location and have some fun. Hamming it up for the camera will make for great photos and good girl-time! Frame an enlargement from the session to make a heartfelt gift.
A Collective Ahhh…
One of the most popular ways to show your appreciation of the commitment these ladies have made to you is to book some relaxation time at the spa. Scheduling a mani, pedi, facial and/or massage will be sure to hit everyone’s reset button. Some salons will even include brunch (did I hear Mimosa?) or lunch to make the day a true pampering event. Look for Groupons or special large-party discounts to make the day easier on your wallet.
Host an Under-Whelming Event
Why not invite your posse over for some wine and whine?! Nothing unites a group more than good gossip! Host a casual, low-key night with your bridesmaids, serve some appetizers, sit back and just chat. You may be pleasantly surprised how much bonding can occur when there are no expectations.
Just say Thank-You!
As the hostess of the grandest event of your life, it is up to you to treat your guests and attendants with kindness, grace and reverence. Although your bridesmaids are there to “attend” you, you have placed a big responsibility of time and money on their plate. Acknowledging that with appreciation and friendship will make your event planning a cherished time.